If you are feeling that there is constant conflict between your desires and wishes of your child, here are the following tips: You are in a visit with her friends to drink a cup of coffee and your child is playing with her child in safety. Shortly after you look at your watch and find that it was time to leave, but when Talnin to your child, strongly refuses to leave and explode in a fit of anger, and beg you to stay for some time. Tattiynh another five minutes, but when going through the five minutes you find more to do the same thing. Although most of us are going through similar positions with our children, where there is a conflict between our desires and wishes, but we do not have the skill to overcome all of those positions. Of course we all wish our children to enjoy the good moral character and learn the difference between right and wrong, but not always easy, especially if the child is stubborn and corresponds to what you are saying the word "no." There is no doubt that dealing with a stubborn child something difficult and sometimes patience implemented before it is implemented patience, but there are effective ways to deal with stubbornness until your home is in a quiet place rather than to become a battlefield! Is it natural that he'd be my child this way? The natural character is very stubborn in children. Ms. Joinh Khayyat - Bachelor of Psychology of children from Boston University and head teachers' previous custody of Children's Hospital Boston, which has designed the curriculum for children and monitor their development academic, physical, mental, and social says: "every child is stubborn to a certain extent, because of the nature of the child to test the surrounding environment in order to know the extent. but children do not know their limits and the task of parents to put them to the border. " D explain. Nadia Sharif - a former dean of the Faculty of kindergarten and a professor at the Institute of Educational Studies at the University of Cairo - that a child from a young age discovers he is a self-independent and has the ability to think and make decisions for himself, as well as the ability to veto anything he does not like. D say. Nadia: "begins when the child begins to discover the world around him and met many such phrases as," No, do not do this "or" Do not touch this "." Then the child starts in the opposition and trying to do what he wants regardless of what his parents say. Here begins the role of parents in their child's discipline, the more the earlier the better. " What is the solution? Alkhbertan agree that effective education is the best way to deal with stubbornness and prevent it. D confirm. Nadia, the first rule of education is firm on principle when your interaction with the child.This means you can agree in advance and your spouse on what is allowed and what is not allowed for your child and what they are doing if your child exceeds the limits set for him, do not reject anything Accept your husband and vice versa. Also do not condone anything he did today then Taaqpinh your child to act the same the next day. The second rule is that you may be quiet but decisive at the same time when Aand your child. If you apply these rules, he would take your child's limits well. Ms. Joinh also suggests saying: "The introduction of a routine in your child's life will reduce the situations where there is a clash between you and this will help him to know what is expected of him." A good idea to determine, the dates for food, bathing, sleeping, and other things that Tattabrenha important. Ms Joinh, saying: "We must keep in mind that just as you expect your child to follow the system without accountability must also let him that an area of freedom to make its own decisions." That the child knows that it can form and saw that he was able to take decisions of its own this is an important aspect in the growth of his personality. Ms. Joinh recommend that parents decide things debatable and things non-negotiable. For example, it would not hurt to let your child choose the cartoon movie that wants to view it or choose the "T-shirt," which he wants, it would give him a sense of satisfying his desire to box. But if your child is designed to do nothing at risk, such as playing with a knife, or if he wanted to do something is not right for you and insisted upon, such as a visit to his grandmother at the time you have a lot of concerns at home, in this case, the final decision for you. To any extent be determined? D say. Nadia: "should not be parents Mtrakhien too much or audiences are too much, exaggerated in both cases will lead to good results. Everything that was met if the child wants is always rejected, without giving him the opportunity to take any decision, will lead to the inability to take any decision or composition of any opinion, condemning the permanent parents in the child, are reluctant to his character. On the other hand, if the parents of their child and left him do what he wants as always; whatever he wants, the result would be a child runaway is not the words of his parents, any influence on him. " I found Ms. Joinh through experience that the best way to deal with the child who insists on doing something you see that he is not fit involves three steps: "The first step is to say to your child calmly and decisively that it should stop that behavior and you do not you wanted to repeat this behavior in terms you do not Tqublanh. Second, if the child did not stop for his behavior, remind him that you have asked him to stop by what he does and tell him that if he did not stop in the case will be punished. " Finally, the Ms. Joinh that if the Child on doing, regardless of what you said to him, then sentenced him to get up even if it displeased him. Says Ms. Joinh: "You must know the child you you mean what you say, and it can not under any circumstances, continue to follow the bad behavior."Appropriate punishment is to deprive the child of something he loves, such as watching television, or go to the club, but it is not appropriate to the child never beaten or insulted him using obscene words. Is natural to happen between you and your child sometimes conflicting opinion. Each of the two experts say that the secret in dealing with the intransigence of the child is that your behavior with a calm and decisive, but the stability at the same time.
